I will acknowledge the thrilling sense that exists when beginning a new adventure. However, more times than not I have found myself worried and anxious about what to expect. Because I am someone who likes to have even the slightest idea of what will happen next, I have found that beginnings bring with them tons of crippling anxiety and worry that make you want to run away and hide from the world forever. Along with a lot of good and happy surprises, of course. It's not all doom and gloom. Until the situation has been fully assessed and found to be working out, the following questions are usually on repeat in my mind:
- What did I get myself into?
- Why am I doing this?
- What's wrong with vowing to hermit-tude for the rest of my life? (Seriously, it can be done)
- Am I really benefiting from this experience?
- Where's the whiskey?
I can be hard to find balance and composure when you're faced with things you are not used to. But, the easiest way to make those questions quiet down and go away is to continue showing up every day. This way you can gain the routine structure needed from these new situations. This begins to help you to really experience what is right in front of you and eventually you may find yourself enjoying the moment. Instead of cringing at every turn.
"How do you do this?" You ask. Well, Some simple and fail-proof habits need to be practiced in order to make it through the new phase. Here is a list of good and healthy habits that can help you to find some peace of mind while you're adjusting to your new life:
- Take 30 minutes every day for something you love-go for a walk, run, paint, write, dance, play games, you name it! It's you time.
- Don't forget to breathe!
- Go easy on yourself. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. It's ok; let it go.
- Stay hydrated. Drinking more water can really perk you up and make you feel better.
- Share a somewhat embarrassing story with a good friend. Called your new significant other by the wrong name? Having a good laugh makes awkward situations less so and more comfortable to remember. And hopefully the other person isn't to uptight to forgive and forget.
- Reach out and make an effort to get to know just one person every day or week.
- Remember: Life is only as big a deal as you make it. Try to relax.
There are lots of other ways to make the most of what can be viewed as a difficult situation. Baby steps can help you to break down a bigger situation into smaller components in a way that is actually manageable. Try changing your perspective to see what you can gain from this new and somewhat scary time. Chances are you'll come out of it much more well adjusted and feel lucky for sticking it out!
What are some ways you've dealt with being the new person? Or if you feel the opposite about these types of situations, what makes you feel out of balance and how do you deal?